If–Then–Never Now Living: Many of us are addicted to If–Then–Never Now Living, a program of contingencies. Our joy, peace, and happiness are incessantly shunted to some moving-target future date based on the parameters of If–Then. Our happiness is contingent upon what may come, not what IS happening.
“If I meet a lover, then I will be happy.” “If I get a promotion, then I will take vacation.” “If I lose 10 pounds, then I will feel good about myself.” “If I just save this much money, then I will feel financially secure.” “If I could only . . . , then . . .” If–Then is an addictive pattern that cycles us away from what is inherently available now.
If–Then living puts all programs of love and joy on pause in the Neverland of our love holograms and connects us to delayed broadcasts that never arrive. If–Then living is not living at all. If–Then living is a pause for because.
We don’t need cause for the joy of being. We do not need reason for peace. And when we find our joy and peace, our happiness will find us too. Get addicted to Now and freedom takes on a whole new meaning in our love hologram.
~ Melissa Joy, excerpted and adapted from ‘Little Book of Big Potentials’ available in the now of mid-July.